Where did I end? I was now a high school graduate with a newborn child. I was jobless and had no college lined up to attend. At this point the discussion of me staying home with my son for his first few years became an ongoing thing with my sons father and I. He was working and caring for us and I didn’t want my mother to raise my child. Once we came to the decision that I would stay home my job became taking care of and raising him. We decided to do this for the first three years of my sons life. After this time I would go to school and pursue an education in Education.
My life became me living part time at my mothers home and part time at my sons father home. For some reason I could not commit to leaving my mothers home to live with my sons father. For 3.5 years I was home with my son. I saw all the little milestones; him walking before the age of one, him wetting up everything when he was being potty trained at one year old. Him speaking his first words. I was able to enjoy all of these things.
As great as those experiences were and as good of a mother I tried to be I often received the worse stares and looks when I went out with my son, even at the park. I saw judgment and disapproval on their faces. It was painful and hurtful. I know these people didn’t know me but their looks were so familiar. They appeared on the faces of people I knew, friend and family. The emotional burden I felt was always hidden, I never allowed anyone not even my closest friends and family see how hurt and emotionally drained I was. I worked my hardest to make sure I was the best mother I could be to my son and that was above anything else. I worked hard to prove everyone wrong.
At the age of one my sons father and I separated. It was a difficult decision. I felt guilty because I could not hold the relationship together. I felt fear because I was unsure of what was going to happen next. at the point I fully moved back in with my mother and remained a stay at home mom while his father too care of us, even with us not being together. At first it was hard, but we attempted to keep things as regular and as normal as possible.
From the age of 3.5-5 it seemed like life was in fastfoward… so many changes occurred
Today NYC is freezing, you hear me? FREEZING, I know, I know, I should not be complaining, because honestly, so far, we have NOT had a bad winter. The weather has been amazing. Who would have thought after last years brutal winter that I would be able to go outside with no coat on in the middle of winter and not feel cold? If New York were continues to have winters like this I may reconsider staying. lol
I don’t know if I told you’ll before but I don’t think my “style’ has a name. I like a little bit of everything. I LOVE vintage but I enjoy modern pieces as well. I LOVE loud colors and prints, but I enjoy toning it down as well. I LOVE showing my curves, but I also enjoy being covered up. All is determined by what I wake up feeling like. On this day I wanted to mix a little old with a little new.
This top I am wearing is a vintage top that can be worn as a jacket. The padded shoulders are what I think gave this look a little “pop”. I belted the top, and paired it with a simple tube skirt, Mary Jane shoes and some bobby socks. As you can see I’m not HUGE on matching so i went with this beautiful clutch from my favorite bag designer.
You can get any vintage top from one of my favorite IG vintage stores Here
similiar skirt: here
Bobby socks: here
This shoe is old and sol out almost everywhere but you can find a similar one Here
Clutch: This was a limited edition clutch but of course you can find some of her amazing bags Here
Why is it that we ( women) have a closet full of clothing but we’re always scrambling for something to wear when we go out? This is what happened to me the other day. I knew about these plans for a while but, for some reason I waited until the last minute to try and figure out what to wear. On this occasion I was going to brunch to celebrate a friends birthday. Now, everyone who knows me know I love me some brunch. Brunch is my favorite meal (lol). So of course I was beyond stoked about attending, but what was I going to wear?
The day of the bunch I could not figure out what to wear. Finally at the last minute I picked out something from my online boutique and made it work. It was this lace and faux leather dress that I had been contemplating wearing for most of the morning. At first I was going to go with separates but I did not feel like stressing myself out (lol,a bit dramatic I know). Separates can be a headache and dresses are small blessings, they are an easy fit, with the right shoes and accessories. Since this dress was pretty busy all on its own I decided to stay true to me but tried to stay as simple as possible.
I went with a Leopard belt to bring a bit of “color” to the look with out being too bright or too dull. Then since it was pretty nice out ( minus the rain) I knew I could pull off a look in which I didn’t have to wear tights. I threw on a pair OTK books and accessorized with bangles, a watch and dangling earrings. Not too simple and not too over the top.
Similar fur: http://angelsvintageboutique.bigcartel.com/product/amazing-classy-auth-mink-coat-size-small
I do!!! If you haven’t noticed by now my legs are ( one of) my favorite part of me. I feel like no matter how out of shape I am ( which I currently am) my legs never fail me. They make me appear taller than I am ( which I love) and for some reason they tend to look toned even when I know good and well they are not.
These particular shorts I’ve had for years, never got around to wearing them. One day after brunch with my girls I walked into this small boutique in Harlem, it was a cute, quaint place. I walked around for a few minutes chatting with one of my friends and saw them. I didn’t even try them on, I just had to have them. I fell in love with them but I had no clue how to wear them. I believe I’ve had them for over 2 years and finally decided to make use of them.
Due to the fact that they were so short and my legs are not very small I paired it with a pair of thigh high stockings and a long jacket. This took the attention off the shortness and place the focus on how beautiful they are.
Photography Credit:@BlackvisionzWhen you work hard for what you want a smile every now and then won’t hurt.
Gold tank: you can get a similar one from here: http://www.pinkqueen.com/Gold-Ladies-Sexy-Slim-Sequins-Vintage-Tank-Top-g40948?gclid=CjwKEAiAk7O0BRD9_Ka2w_PhwSkSJAAmKswxqQ9A82VtKbUM8eGbY2RKSI_avCzHQQ2-EftqH1PPRhoCQbHw_wcB
Shorts: ( as mentioned I purchased these about 2 years ago, when i didn’t keep track of where I purchased something from) Similar ones can be found here http://www.forever21.com/Product/Product2.aspx?Category=bottom&ProductID=2000134846&VariantID=02&utm_medium=cpc&utm_source=google&utm_term=&utm_campaign=PLA_GSC_F21&utm_content=g_52395895998_pla&mr%3atrackingCode=0E30696F-8068-E511-80F8-0050569437F6&mr%3areferralID=NA&mr%3adevice=c&mr%3aadType=plaonline&mr%3aad=52395895998&mr%3akeyword=&mr%3amatch=&mr%3atid=pla-89213830998&mr%3aploc=9004163&mr%3ailoc=&mr%3astore=&mr%3afilter=89213830998&gclid=CjwKEAiAk7O0BRD9_Ka2w_PhwSkSJAAmKswxOWRyiN5vKXT_mg8C5jNWQlDAGY_kX7fwX5KxqVxVABoCfTvw_wcB&br=F21
Black and white Jacket :http://www.myseleganceboutique.com/Casualty-2197.htm
Clutch: The bag I have is no longer there but here is a similar one from the same company http://shethecollection.com/collections/bags/products/wild-things-cobalthttp://shethecollection.com/collections/bags/products/wild-things-cobalt
You can find some Thigh Highs here http://www.barenecessities.com/rene-rofe-fishnet-thigh-highs-with-garter-g-string-set-6026_product.htm?pf_id=ReneRofe6026&search=
Christmas has past and the day after is here. This year instead of it being freezing cold with snow on the ground it feels like a crisp spring day with leaves on the ground. I decided to take a walk and think about the year that is slowing coming to the end. I was having a bad hair day so I threw on an over sized hat to hide the offensive,lol.
This year has not been a gem for me. I have learned a lot business and personal wise. My hopes are the the lessons learned this year will be a stepping stone for the path I a trying t0 create for 2016. While the year was a rough one there were many great things that occurred. My son graduating High school and going to college topped the list.
The wind was blowing as I struggled to keep my hat on. Of course today I forgot my hat pin.
Hat: Aldos is sold out of that over sized hat here is a regular size brim hat http://www.aldoshoes.com/us/en_US/accessories/women%27s/hats%2C-scarves-%26-gloves/c/313/ONARENNA/p/39253021-98
and here is an over size hat:http://www.aldoshoes.com/us/en_US/accessories/women%27s/hats%2C-scarves-%26-gloves/c/313/MADODDA/p/38660485-24
I don’t know about you guys and gals but I am LOVING this weather. While I am a native New Yorker I HATE the cold. I despise the snow and while layering up is absolutely amazing, bundling up is annoying and uncomfortable. So while the weather continues to be beautiful this fall I am going to enjoy it.
I have come to the conclusion that I like this color… Taupe.
I never noticed how many pices of clothing I had in this color until I started to photograph myself in them. I think its quite a compliment to brown skin girls…
My look consisted of…
Kimono ( very old from Asos) a somewhat similar one from Asos http://www.asos.com/monki/monki-kimono-sleeve-dress/prod/pgeproduct.aspx?iid=5227574&clr=Black&SearchQuery=kimono+dress&pgesize=36&pge=3&totalstyles=205&gridsize=3&gridrow=8&gridcolumn=2
My OTK boots were from JustFab.com but here are some similar ones from Asos http://us.asos.com/Daisy-Street-Taupe-Block-Heel-Over-The-Knee-Boots/17v0a2/?iid=5831674&affid=14174&channelref=google+shopping&mk=abc¤cyid=2&gclid=CjwKEAiA18mzBRCo1e_-y_KLpXISJACEsANGeST6WbWJb2GktgEib-tIosoyB7Zj4QIe5O03gYXqTBoCzRrw_wcB&mporgp=L0RhaXN5LVN0cmVldC9EYWlzeS1TdHJlZXQtVGF1cGUtQmxvY2stSGVlbC1PdmVyLVRoZS1LbmVlLUJvb3RzL1Byb2Qv
A different pair from Justfab.com http://www.justfab.com/products/RAVEA-HS1513815-2720-3?featured_product_location_id=3760&psrc=Seasonal_Shop_BS_OTK_1215
My clutch is from Lovecortnie.com http://lovecortnie.com/clutches/?sort=featured&page=2
Hello, My name is Myisha… I was, I am a teen mom. I say I am because although I am beyond my teenage years, and my child is actually a teenager now it is something that I am always questioned about.It is something I will always be able to relate to. When I was 17 years old I gave birth to a son. At that time I was a senior in High School. I was very active ( played sports), somewhat social and pretty close to my family. While I wasn’t at the top of my class I did pretty good in school. I followed all of the rules ( well except the obvious) and rarely missed a class. When many people found out I was pregnant they were shocked. Not only was my mother super strict but I wasn’t one to hangout, drink and or smoke. I indulged in none of that when I was younger. I was the epitome of why one should not judge a book by its cover… while I didn’t indulge in the above I did become a teenage mom. No one would have picked ME for that role.
Being pregnant was not as bad as I expected ( the physical aspect of it). I carried very small and while I had morning sickness all day I was able to hide it. No one outside of my family and really close friends knew of my pregnancy until I was about give birth. I hid my pregnancy from everyone else because I knew the stigma attached. I knew I would be looked at very different. My fears came true once my pregnancy was known to everyone.
I was almost forbidden from going on my senior trip after it was paid for in full. The day of the trip I was pulled to the side and told I would be a bad influence on the others, and it was best that I not go. I was told this by my principle. I was told by teachers that I would drop out to get my GED because I would not come back after giving birth. I was told (by adults) that I would be apart of the system, that I would have one or two more with in 5 years. All these things broke me down so much I missed my graduation ( a decision i do not regret).
My school handled me so bad I had no guidance about college or any other options for my future. I was told to wait until I had the baby to make a decision. Prior to anyone finding out about my pregnancy I was getting a lot of assistance picking schools and preparing for my future. Once the pregnancy was out I was told I may not want to go to school so waiting would be best. Once I had my baby I received little to no assistance no matter how intent I was on continuing my education.
So… I was a high school graduate and a teenage mom with no eye on my future. I had no help ( in terms of my future education) and no hope. I knew what I wanted to do. I know I what I had to do. I had no idea how to do it. I began to think, maybe everyone was right, maybe I would be a part of the system. Maybe I did set myself and child up for failure.
Clothing makes me happy. I know that sounds pretty shallow but they do. If I’m feeling down for any reason, sometimes all I have to do is put something pretty on, do my hair, throw on some lipstick and slip on an amazing pair of shoes. I know everyone has that ONE article of clothing that when they put it on they feel… pretty. Well this dress is that for me. I absolutely love this dress. This is the type of dress that needs very little help. You can wear it with booties, pumps, even over the knee boots. With this dress less is defiantly more. It speaks for itself. I paired it my always favorite bangle, dangling earrings ( although you can rock this with studs), ankle boots and one of my favorite clutches. Threw on some shades and felt… well… pretty.
Shoes: The shoes were purchased years ago from Stevemadden.com but they have them here: http://www.shoespie.com/product/10888696.html
Who does not like fall? I mean what is there to not like? You can easily take your summer clothes and layer them up to be suitable for the fall. Not only can you play around with your wardrobe without having to spend extra money, but the environment in the fall is simply beautiful. The canvas of the street that is painted by leaves sometimes makes you forget where you are. My appreciation for the fall is immense. I love how it plays on my senses… the sights, smells, sounds… are all so beautiful. Fall simply makes me happy.
Taking a stroll in one of my favorite parks I could not help but enjoy the beauty of fall.
Continue reading “Fall is where the heart is.”